Is Patience Overrated?

Patience. Peace. Progress.

It’s a mantra that I have come to live by. I’ve tried using it to guide both professional and personal decision-making. But when does “wait time” become too long? And when does “being patient” become an excuse for not making moves?

Now, my logical self wants to calmly say, “Well, actually…patience leads to peace and progress. So take it easy. Just be.”

However, another part of me [the one with the raised-eyebrow] wants to yell, “Seriously? Why don’t you just be quiet? Patience is wayyy overrated!”

Take love for example. You find…or choose…or grow into…or stumble upon (take your pick) that one person who makes you feel like time has stopped in their presence. You play it cool at first. Get to know them. Let them get to know you. Become friends…yada yada yada. Then you begin letting the walls crumble to reveal your true selves. And eventually, if you have not clawed each other’s eyes out by that point, you come to the mutual understanding that there is a strong like or even love in your mist.

But now what? Here are some common pieces of advice we have all probably been given by friends or family when we’ve reached that point, especially if it has only taken a few weeks or months to get there.

  • Take it easy.
  • Slow down.
  • Take your time.
  • Time will tell.
  • Don’t rush into love.
  • Keep looking.
  • Good things come to those that wait.
  • Don’t settle.
  • If it’s meant to be it will be.
  • Be patient in love.

Even the major faiths of the world value the practice of patience. Many teaching patience with God, others and self. And in the modern world of fast this and instant that, we continue to worship the ability to be patient and treat it as an elusive virtue.

But is patience overrated? [Insert a long, deep, pull your bellybutton to your spine breath before answering.] No, it is not. Many things created in a rush do not work out or lose its f(l)avor soon after because of the lack of intentionality.

Furthermore, let us not confuse patience and waiting. They are two different things. A lot of people wait in love. Wait in careers. Wait in life. I’ve been guilty of it before. But people who practice patience in love and life are diligently working toward something greater and, perhaps most importantly, do so without resenting the journey.

Simply stated: Any “wait time” is too much time. But you can never be too patient.

In peace,


Feel like sharing your thoughts? Comment on the blog or email me at Demetria.giles@gmail.


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